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ELUSIVE INNOCENCE - purchase Dean Tong's critically acclaimed book now for $10 (includes S&H) when you order here at abuse-excuse.com. 
"The strategic
pointers that make up the bulk of the book are revealing." - Salon.com
(5-22-02)
 Ashes to Ashes... Families to DustASHES to ASHES... Families to Dust is a hard hitting reference handbook for parents, attorneys, therapists, educators and students, concerned with the popular trend, but unpopular issue, of false child abuse allegations. Has our child "protection" system become a cattle-like herding industry? Are legitimate child abuse complaints neglected due to a plethora of unfounded reports? Where would one turn to find the 'Wal-Mart' self-help guide to false accusations of child abuse? Ashes to Ashes will answer these questions and more. It is the sequel to Tong's groundbreaking 1992 book, Don't Blame ME, Daddy. DON'T BLAME ME, DADDYDon't Blame ME, Daddy provides help in distinguishing between true and false allegations of child sexual abuse. It was written to remind all Americans that not every allegation of abuse is well-founded or made in good faith. It should be required reading for the other victims of false charges: social workers, therapists, guardians-ad-litem, attorneys, judges, teachers, police officers and lawmakers. Take a peek look at this ground-breaking book, view the: SAMPLE CHAPTER IN FEAR OF FATHERS:In this 105 minute video of a live presentation before Fathers & Families of Boston, April 12, 1999, noted Author and Consultant Dean Tong, offers hard-hitting and timely advise to those unjustly accused of domestic violence, sexual child abuse and 'repressed' memories. Sexual Allegations in the '90sNobody is exempt from being accused of sexual impropriety, albeit child abuse, sexual harassment, "repressed" memories, etc. Scores of high-profile cases depicting accuseds, such as Justice Thomas, Woody Allen, Bob Barker, Cardinal Bernardin and football star Michael Irvin, have shocked the world this past decade. See and hear Dean Tong, creator of the one-hour video/audio series Sexual Allegations in the '90s: Tools You Can Use. Tong arms the CEO/parent with Dos and Don'ts in the workplace/home. And offers invaluable advice to those whose "hands may wander," or whose tender bath may be their ticket to prison. Dean Tong has been a media consultant for the following high profile cases:
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Dean Tong is *not* an Attorney. Nothing published herein should be taken to be construed as *legal advise*. Mr. Tong does not give legal advice to the public at this his website, via phone, or in person. As an expert, he does consult on cases and offers assistance to licensed attorneys under their direct supervision and guidance. Published text at this website should be construed to be general information, only, and not legal advice. If you are seeking legal advice, please consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction. 
Dean Tong is:
Wouldn't You Rather Have The Guy Who Wrote The Book Consult On Your Case?  Mr. Tong provides the following forensic consultative service for Attorneys, unjustly accused parents, and parents embroiled in acrimonius custody battles without abuse allegations as a Nationally Recognized Expert on the issue of false accusations. Dean Tong qualifies as an expert in false child abuse accusations cases under Florida Statute Ch. 90.702, and under Federal Rule of Evidence 702.
Mr. Tong accepts the following types of cases in criminal, juvenile, family, and/or administrative (child abuse registry) court, nationally, on a consulting basis: alleged physical child abuse (includes alleged Shaken Baby Syndrome), alleged sexual child abuse (within a divorce/custody battle, or not), alleged failure to protect, alleged medical neglect (including failure to thrive), alleged psychological child abuse (Parental Alienation), alleged child-on-child abuse, and alleged domestic violence (spousal abuse). If you have a question relative to whether or not Mr. Tong can help you please feel free to call 813-671-4190 or send an e-mail to DeanTong@aol.com Please see Mr. Tongs CV here. Have YOU been unjustly accused of child abuse, sexual child abuse, physical abuse, child neglect, "repressed" memories, parental alienation syndrome, munchausen syndrome by proxy (Factitious Disorder), or domestic violence? Is your child at-risk in the custody of a parent who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder? Is your attorney "sitting back" and "waiting to see what the other side does"? Has he/she penned a strategy to obtain the equitable relief you are seeking? Consultant and Book Author Dean Tong will peruse your file and opine on the same. He'll perform an Internet Search for your State. He'll speak with your legal counsel. He'll query "his" experts. And, he'll devise a roadmap in which you can prove your innocence and impeach the credibility of your false accuser(s). His critique will take you where your attorney has not...to justice! Moreover, if your attorney is suffering from "Let's Wait And See What Happens Syndrome", and/or if the Guardian-Ad-Litem on your case is recommending the parent who suffers from BPD be granted child custody, you may "require" a new team! Mr. Tong will find you competent legal and/or mental health practitioners to champion your position. January 27, 2004 "You have provided us with the tools to win this custody battle by directing things from behind the scenes. The others who are visible get all of the attention, but you are the one that deserves special attention. Thanks for all of your guidance on our case. Words cannot express my gratitude to you". - Ralph Freedman, California, rjfreedman@pacific.net January 23, 2004 "I hope each innocent dad who goes through this finds your work as vital as we did, and I hope you know there are people out there like me whose depth of appreciation for your work can't easily be expressed." - Krista Boaz, Texas, Krista_Boaz@anadarko.COM January 22, 2004 "Dean Tong is a superb consultant and an invaluable aid to attorneys. He has written several books on false allegations and PAS; but, more important, he's a tireless and knowledgeable fighter for justice. He knows the scientific literature on sex and physical abuse and can furnish attorneys with treatises and papers that really help in defending the falsely accused. He is an invaluable source in identifying expert witnesses. So, I would encourage people to consider hiring Mr. Tong as a consultant." - Bob Gidding, Esq., (Attorney-at-Law)
January 17, 2004
"My wife could not comply with the supervised visitation which was set up as a result of the custody evaluation which granted me sole custody. Thanks for getting my case targeted in the correct direction which took me from being underdog to taking full control." - Kennneth Schweizer, D.D.S.
Clearwater, FL
December 11, 2003
"Thanks! Your work was the deciding factor. I look forward to working with you again!" - Mark Bockstein, Esq.
8751 W. Broward Blvd.
Sept. 17, 2003
"I thank you for your great services and surely appreciate all of your help."
Tomoslav Novosel
Sept. 17, 2003
"You were a saviour during my trials and tribulations. Because of your help all criminal charges against me were dropped."
Ron Woody
August 28, 2003
When I was wrongly accused of child abuse against my 4-year-old daughter by her mother the first and smartest move I made was to seek out the help of Mr. Tong. Despite not having had many cases in the State of Arizona, Dean jumped right in and worked effectively with existing counsel and helped to secure additional relevant counsel as well as the right experts to facilitate my legal team in not only preventing me from being arrested but also ultimately set me on the road to Joint Legal & Physical Custody - something I had been working for over 2 years to try & secure. Dean's tireless efforts on behalf of my child and myself have ensured that the father/daughter bond will not be broken this time. I consider him an advocate, an expert and despite being a little abrupt at times one of the primary reasons I have managed to get my life back in such short order.
Drew Alexander
February 18, 2003
"As an attorney practicing in juvenile law for the last 12 1/2 years, I can safely say that I have never had any one person be so helpful to a case or the administration of justice as Dean Tong. With his expert consultation and advice, including a real knack for finding the world's best experts for evaluations and testimony, Dean Tong has been a great help to me in fighting against a system which is inherently stacked against the accused.
Dean Tong should receive an award for exceptional service in protecting the innocent and helping children by allowing them the opportunity to maintain meaningful contact with their falsely accused parent." Sincerely,
Timothy L. Lapointe
October 9, 2002
"I did not get in contact with Dean Tong until after I was falsely accused of child abuse--more than 9 months after my ordeal with CHIPS involvement started. And all I can say is that I wish I would have contacted him 9 months sooner. If I did so, I probably could have successfully averted the last 4 months of my ordeal.
Dean can glean the pillars (and pitfalls) of your case quickly through his questionaire, and get things moving in the right direction fast. Speed is of the essence in these situations. I am sure, in retrospect, that there were at least a dozen people working on ways to frame me up in the last year.
Dean is not an attorney (as I've heard my attorneys say several times in the last 9 months) but he has a wealth of experiences in these types of cases that no attorney can match. And I would trust his opinion as highly as any attorney I've talked to about the juvenile code (and I've talked with more than a dozen attorneys in the past year).
His numerous books are excellent as well. They gave me a crash course in CHIPS and the art of false accusation, as its being played by numerous divorcees throughout the country. The anecdotes are helpful. To realize that there are others out there who have gone through a similar ordeal as I, provides some comfort and satisfaction.
The idea of compiling some of Dean's work into a quick reference, "Juvenile Code for Dummies" is not a bad idea at all. Almost no one in the lay public knows anything about these matters--until they themselves are dragged in, like I was. And believe me, once this thing is over, you won't see me volunteering to talk about it at parties and social gatherings.
I am amazed how few people that I have met know what CHIPS is. And these days if you have children and are involved in a divorce, you better get a crash course from Dean."
- Greg Schulz, M.D. GSchulz@new.rr.com
August 22, 2002
"We feel fortunate to have him on our side. Whenever we need Mr. Tong he responds immediately. I would recommend Mr. Tong's services to anyone who needs an honest professional helper with an excellent knowledge and familiarity with the American Court System"
- Dr. Eleonora Drechsel, Mothers Protecting Children, Inc.
February 28, 2002
"Retaining Dean Tong in my case was the smartest choice I ever made. Like
most people who have had the misfortune of being falsely accused in a
SAID case, I found myself in a situation where I had little knowledge of
what do, how to defend myself, and how to disprove the allegations. I had
no idea of what to expect from the law enforcement agencies, or how to
deal with them. Dean had a game plan, and right away he put me in touch
with the experts who were able to present concrete scientific evidence of
my innocence. His expertise and contacts were invaluable to me. I would
recommend Dean's services as a consultant to anyone facing serious
accusations of abuse. At the very least, getting your hands on one of his
books should be the first thing you do if you are falsely accused."
D.F. Elon, NC live_laugh_love@juno.com
December 27, 2001
"I, as you are, was deep into vindication of the sins committed against my children and myself simply four months ago. I answered Dean Tong's questionaire and he responded. I had been accused of being "sexually inappropriate" with my daughter two months prior to the final hearing of a simple disputed-custody divorce case. I had immediately volunteered for a State Police Polygraph. I had passed the first test.
From that questionaire, I talked to Dean on the telephone. He asked me if I was "clean"? I replied that I was. He asked me if I was ready to prove it. I replied that I was. From that point in time, when I retained Dean as the Quarterback of my Counsel, I have made amazing progress. The test results of the professionals that he directed me towards returned "sterling and benign." We prepared our case for Court. Dean requested and read 1,350 pages of Court Documents that I had collected during the four years that I have lived as being "guilty until proven innocent". During those four months prior to trial, there were a total of 232 e-mails between Dean, the Professionals he led me to, and myself. Dean availed himself to no less than one dozen one-hour phonecalls in his effort to guide and advise me. Dean, and the Professionals, came to small-town West Virginia to testify in early December, 2001. Dean was tendered as an expert based upon his CV, the three books that he has authored, and his memorization of the 1,350 pages of court documents of my case. I have not seen my daughter in over 40 months. For the first time since 1997, I have finally been awarded an "overnight" with my two sons. For the first time since 1997, I have put up and decorated a Christmas Tree. For the first time in four years, I have a shred of hope of seeing my Daughter again. For the first time in my life (I have never been involved in any court battles before this one) I feel that I have been accurately represented. For the first time in my life, I feel that I have received what I have paid for. For the first time in my life, I know that a complete stranger is "in my corner." Do not ask Dean to Quarterback your team if you are not "clean." Those of us that are do not want his network of experts to be sullied by the dirty ones. Call on Dean if you are clean. Otherwise, call on someone else." Robert S. Drake 304-984-1047 304-273-6351 boraq@earthlink.net
October 2, 2001:
Dear Mr. Tong: The hearing to clear Kyle was on Friday 9/28/01. He was exonerated! No one had to testify although we were all there for Kyle. The hearing consisted of Attny Mike Gough, the attny for Children & Youth, Dr. Talenti (emergency room Dr.) phone testimony only and the Hearing Officer. Kyle, Joe, my family and myself greatly appreciate your counsel and support.
Judy Seip (Jules60158@aol.com)
September 29, 2001
"Dear Mr. Tong: Good news. Thanks to your help, the case against Ron Samuel was dismissed by the DCF. Thank you for your help." Dear Dean, GOOD NEWS : The attorney Jabar, that I went to because a referral of yours, actually a referral of a referral, Mr. Jabar had told me, after reading over Dorothy's statement about my wife calling her and saying she lied me into jail, Mr. Jabar had said take the info on my own to the DA. To make a long story short.....Davis did not get back to me....after 2 weeks.....I then called Mitchell....he refused an appointment.....wanted me set for guilty......Went to his elected Boss, Crook,.....talked to Crook,....showed the evidence.....long discussion..... Conclusion: He could see that I was telling the truth. He knew Dorothy was the daughter of a minister and was telling the truth, and that also she was the mother of a Sheriff, and was indeed truthful.....he therefore: DROPPED and DISMISSED ALL CHARGES He wrote a statement to that affect right in front of me. So case is closed ! God bless you very much Dean for getting the RIGHT attorney !!! It took time, and we went through a heck of a lot of them, but Mr. Jabar was a gift from God, and so were YOU !!! Take care ! By the way, Mr. Jabar was the BOSS of Crook YEARS ago in the county system. What a coincidence or another act of God !!! So Crook KNEW Jabar was truthful and knew Jabar could have won the case if he wanted to. That is it for now Dean. Now onto the divorce trial , April 11th. (April 5th I have to show up to hear from the judge that the case is dismissed.) God bless again !
ajw80817@glaxowellcome.com I was falsely accused four times of molesting my son. I had gone through a full-blown trial and the judge had refused to exonerate me. Shortly after the trial two more accusations were made. I was at a complete loss of how to respond. My sister found Mr. Tong's website and after speaking to him suggested I call him. After explaining my situation to Mr. Tong, he agreed to become involved in my case. His involvement was critical. He operates behind the scenes by providing a roadmap to redemption that includes assembling a team of experts that specializes in fighting false allegations. Within a few months, my new team was able to secure a new trial and indications are that the judge will find as a "Finding of Fact" that I did not molest my son. It is not sufficient to know in your own mind that you did not do anything. It is not sufficient for Social Services to find "Insufficient Evidence" exists to find you guilty. Without a court ruling clearing your name this issue will never go away. Mr. Tong is the conduit for accomplishing this. Alex Wright ajw80817@glaxowellcome.com, December 5, 2000
When one comes across Dean Tong it most likely will be during one of the worst experiences in your life. We are a blended family who has worked very hard to fit together only to be torn apart by what I've come to know as THE ABUSE-EXCUSE. Dean Tong is not only your only hope in an ever unfair battle, but a compassionate professional. He provided us with valuable information and contacts that we would have not found otherwise. He responded to our family and individual case with concentration, effort and experience without hesitation. I know that no one can truly help without having gone through this type of nightmare themselves. Dean Tong offered everything he promises and more - he has a honest, supporting approach. He will tell it to you straight - he does not give false hope or try to pretend this is not real and completely serious. I felt an immediate trust that I have yet to find with any attorney I have had thus far. I fully recommend Dean's services without reservation. My only regret is that we had not found him sooner and I very much wish he was an attorney himself !! The Deininger Family-East Stroudsburg, PA "Thank you for your help and support. We could not have done it without you. You guided us in the right direction, and we were really impressed by your knowledge of events as they are and even before they happened.You were a God send." Rhonda Kinsey, for my husband Bobby Kinsey rhonda_kinsey@harte-hanks.com "Dean has been a pioneer in this area. You can never go wrong by listening to what he has to say. His advice will help dig you out." Pastor Roby Roberson of the Wenatchee Witch Hunt (WA) (roberson@televar.com). "False allegations of sexual abuse and/or rape of a child ignite a chain reaction of events which could lead you to lose your children or go to prison for many years. This is not the time to conserve time, effort, or money. To learn how to defend yourself, go to www.falseallegations.com/deantong.htm" Barbara Johnson, Esq., Attorney at Law, Massachusetts "My daughter told me in December 1999 while I had the children for Christmas break, that a relative at her fathers home was fondling her. I found Mr. Dean Tong through his internet site, abuse-excuse.com. At first, he didn't seem like the kind of person who could help me. After all, I believed my daughter, and had no interest in trying to prove someone was 'falsely accused.' I called Mr. Tong anyway, thinking that if he knows the game he could play it from either side of the court. I was right! In this short time he has given me the tools and confidence I needed to proceed with protecting my children. Dean has proven himself to me and I can tell you that he is an honest, competent individual who truly cares about you and the damage being done to our nations families."
Gail Valenzuela, gaildeen@hotmail.com or 505-373-4514 "It is my opinion that Dean Tong is one of the foremost authorities in this country on false allegations of abuse, false memory syndromes and their underlying dynamics, especially as these relate to Borderline Personality
Disorder. I have verified much of his research on my own and found it to be accurate as he represented it."
Alan Cheek, dedicated_dad@yahoo.com
"I would strongly reccomend that any lawyer or litigant involved in a custody battle with SAID Syndrome implications immediately contact Dean Tong, the sooner the better. His referreals to the leading experts in the field of false allegations of sexual abuse early in the case are one of the few life-lines available to the falsely accused. And for lawyers, the reference material with which he will supply you will help you hit the road running if you are not as up-to date as you would like to be on the psycho-sexual litertaure and tests available in SAID Syndrome cases." Steven P. Combs, Esquire
Family Law Lawyer, Jacksonville, Florida www.fladivorce.com 1-877-FLA-DIVORCE info@combsandgreene.com Dear Mr. Tong: We received your recommendations re: Tom Lahey Divorce/Custody case. On behalf of Tom and all his family and friends, thank you very, very much for your valuable work on Tom's behalf. We are studying your recommendations and will be pursuing them. You have given us a plan of action and a "dream team". For the first time in many months I feel we have a real chance of helping Tom defend himself against these malicious charges, as well as saving his children. Once again, many thanks. "In the unspeakable hell of false allegations of child abuse, Dean Tong's consultative services are indispensable, not only for true victims (children and parents), but for attorneys - who are mostly unprepared, inexperienced and uneducated in dealing with the impending avalanche." - Yevrah Ornstein (CA) (415-488-4309) "Dean and his people are the best at what they do. He made me aware of so much that wasn't being done, that should have been done. His help is invaluable. I really think Dean is one of the best you can hire in the area of false allegations."
Corey Galvin (IA) cojobega@netins.net
"I just received your analysis and to say the very least, it was most professional. Of one thing I am positive. He could never have gotten the information you provided through any Arkansas Attorney"!
Allen Cowling, Private Investigator, Jackson, MS www.allencowling.com.
Mr. Tong, THE CHILDREN ARE COMING HOME!!!! We've waited for this day for 6 1/2 months! The charges were dismissed by DSS today via letter to Danah's attorney. The court date is scheduled for 1/22/99 when the judge will make it official. This has been an ordeal for Danah as well as all her family, not to mention what they have done to the children. I don't know if Laurie has told you but she is expecting a baby. She has been afraid to let anyone know because of DSS. Now we can also celebrate the coming of her child!!! From the entire Roberson/Brannock family.....THANK YOU!
Danah, Kellianne, Dylon Phelps and Kacey Varner "Just wanted to share a bit of good news with everyone...my fiance, who hasn't been allowed to see or talk to his daughters for over a year, will now get phone visitation twice a week!!! It's a start. A special thanks to Dean Tong and to our attorney, Tony Schwab, of Stuart, Florida....I thank God everyday for their expertise and sound advice."
Marty Rapert, 3-14-00.
If you, or your attorney, are interested in retaining Dean Tong as a Consultant on your false abuse allegations and/or child custody case, Mr. Tong requires the following:
The package, consisting of the case file, timeline and fee should be FEDEX'd to Dean Tong @ 10246 Hunters Haven Boulevard, Riverview, Florida 33569 DISCLAIMER: Dean Tong is not an Attorney. His advise and suggestions should be brought to the attention of your lawyer. And, he will be indemnified and held harmless in the event you do not win your case. In the past several years Dean Tong has consulted on and critiqued abuse and custody cases involving the following 40 states: AK, AL, AR, AZ, CA, CO, CT, FL, GA , IA, IL, IN, KS, KY, LA, MA, MD, ME, MI, MN, MO, MS, NC, NJ, NM, NY, OH, OK, OR, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WA, WI, WV  Has the state child "protective" services agency kidnapped your children and the clock is ticking against you?
If any of the above scenarios even comes close to your case, Dean Tong can help! Tong offers his phone consultative services for a flat fee of $100 with no minimum time alottment. We accept all major credit cards for this service. Please call Dean Tong at 1-800-854-0735 and receive the direction and guidance your case deserves from an expert. CLICK HERE to order your Trial Talk With Tong. Mr. Tong now accepts the following major credit cards as compensation for rendering his consultative and expert witness services: MASTER CARD - VISA - AMERICAN EXPRESS - DISCOVER
Contact Mr. Tong via e-mail at DeanTong@aol.com © 2009 FamRights Press, All Rights Reserved
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