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Ashes to Ashes... Families to Dust

"ASHES to ASHES... Families to Dust is a realistic view on child abuse in the world today. The truth is scary and Dean Tong writes it like it is so. ASHES to ASHES makes you stop and think about the way you have or are now, raising your children. Anyone going through a divorce or separation should read this book...you won't be sorry! Don't be a victim!"

DON'T BLAME ME, DADDY

Don't Blame ME, Daddy provides help in distinguishing between true and false allegations of child sexual abuse. It was written to remind all Americans that not every allegation of abuse is well-founded or made in good faith.

It should be required reading for the other victims of false charges: social workers, therapists, guardians-ad-litem, attorneys, judges, teachers, police officers and lawmakers.

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ABUSE-EXCUSE.COM provides resource information and more to parents and others unjustly accused of child abuse, physical child abuse (including Shaken Baby Syndrome), child neglect, sexual child abuse, child pornography via the Internet, "repressed" memories, sexual harassment, or domestic violence (spousal abuse). We aim to help the falsely and wrongly accused to articulate scientific facts to child protection investigators, teachers, attorneys and judges, urging them to exercise caution in their "rush to judge" abuse calls. About 2/3 of all child abuse reports turn out to be unfounded, as errors or mistakes in professional judgment.

In addition, we can analyze your case relative to prospective Parental Alienation or Parental Alienation Syndrome, false allegations of Parental Alienation Syndrome, Stockholm Syndrome, Borderline Personality Disorder, and/or a prospective lawsuit.

Recent research indicates that most unfounded claims of sexual child abuse are fostered by "delusional" accusers. Hickman & Reynolds in their paper entitled "Effects of False Allegations of Sexual Abuse on Children and Families," believe delusional accusers, usually mothers, may suffer from a mental health condition such as Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and they will shop for an expert to confirm their child has been abused, and will not take NO for an answer! Same accusers use the psychological phenomena of projection and transferance to convince the "abused" child ...Daddy touched you in bad places!

Dr. Charles Ford, a psychiatrist and author of the book Lies, Lies, Lies: The Psychology of Deceit (American Psychiatric Press, 1999) refers to a phenomenon known as "Pseudologia Fantastica," or pathological lying. Sometimes associated with Borderline Personality Disorder and a symptom of Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy or Factitious Disorder, these fantastic liars, who are not the same as delusional psychotics, according to Dr. Ford, about 1/3 of the time will suffer some form of brain dysfunction. He says that "Such liars are often smooth-talking narcissists, so self-centered they often think they can construct a reality. In many instances, the lying gets worse as the liar gets more power." Please CLICK HERE

Recent studies conducted by Ceci, Bruck, McBrien, and Dagenbach have shed light on two highly probable reasons for the vast number of unfounded and erroneous child abuse reports; i.e. confirmatory bias (whereby social services and the authorities have a pre-conceived notion the abuse already occurred when they undertake an investigation) and source misattributions (whereby the children and *professionals* misattribute the source or origin of the so-called abuse) are necessities your defense suggestibility expert must learn about! Call 1-800-374-2721 to order the Ceci/Bruck bible- Jeopardy In The Courtroom.

Susan Smith and the Menendez Brothers used the "cry wolf" defense mechanism, too, in their attempts to evade punishment for their wrongdoings.

Here, employers of the abuse-excuse, will not assume culpability for their own actions. They, too, may suffer from BPD, or some other mental health disorder!

• those malcontents who commit unspeakable acts and prey upon our children;
• those vindictive grudge bearers who wield children as "pawns and puppets" in bitter divorce and custody battles;

They should be prosecuted to the fullest extent allowed by law!

The very solution has become the problem!

Lacking the necessary education and training skills to conduct objective and competent child protective "investigations," intake workers at social service agencies remove non-abused children from their homes frequently; and in doing so, leave truly abused children in jeopardy. Combine this equation with a mental health industry that is rendering unnecessary clinical therapies for alleged repressed memories, and you have a prescription for disaster.

To exacerbate matters, our triers-of-facts, our courts, our rubber stamping error-rich recommendations from guardians-ad-litem, social services, child protection teams, and therapists... forcing non-abused children into foster care homes while allowing kids in harm's way to die (at the hands of the state).

The end result:

The JonBenet Ramsay, Megan Kanka and Polly Klauss-type cases have caused a backlash. These horrific stories of children raped and/or murdered have accentuated the number of child abuse reports.

• 160,000 reports of suspected child abuse were reported in 1963. That number exploded to 1.7 million in 1985.
• And a report disseminated by the National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect (NCCAN) Child Maltreatment 1995: Reports From the States to the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System, depicts more than three million reports of alleged child abuse and neglect that year. However, two million of those complaints were without foundation or false!

In addition, our child protection laws, such as The Mondale Act and Megan's Law, have instigated and invited scores of anonymous and unfounded reports of abuse to be made.

Anonymous reporting of child abuse is an open invitation for governmental intrusion into American homes. This *parens patriae* mindset has spawned such child *advocate* leaders as Dr. C. Henry Kempe to champion government authorized visitations (totalitarianism) resulting in family *support* workers teaching parents, parenting! Click on *Beware The Child Protectors* and read about it, here!

A recently published abstract authored by experts at the Mayo Clinic sheds light on the difference between childrens' sexual behavior and child sexual abuse. The study shows with unwavering certainty that many children are sexually curious and the same need *not* be construed as *consistent with sexual abuse*. Click HERE

False allegations of child abuse demand immediate attention. If you've been accused of a sex crime unjustly, you must fight back with a vengeance to survive. The Tong's Tips and Referrals and Resources are a great place to start if you have been falsely accused.

REMEMBER: Whether you've been accused of sexual child abuse, physical child abuse, domestic violence, or sexual harassment, you must follow Tongs 2-Prong Test:

• You must prove your innocence, which equates to psychological, and/or psychosexual testing; and
• You must impeach the credibility of your false accusers.

Dean Tong is *not* an Attorney. Nothing published herein should be taken to be construed as *legal advise*. Mr. Tong does not give legal advice to the public at this his website, via phone, or in person. As an expert, he does consult on cases and offers assistance to licensed attorneys under their direct supervision and guidance. Published text at this website should be construed to be general information, only, and not legal advice. If you are seeking legal advice, please consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

In addition, Mr. Tong is neither a clearinghouse for referrals to attorneys or expert witnesses, nor an activist. Please do not query him for lawyer referrals unless you plan to first retain him on your case as forensic consultant.

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